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Security Planning

Safety Plan

If you think it is time to leave an abusive relationship, you must have a safety plan that can permit you to end the relationship safer. Consider our number 1 (800) 670-1014, if you need help to make this plan.

We present some questions you can ask for your safety.

  • What have you done in the past that kept you safe when abused?
  • If you need to escape temporarily, think: Where would you go?
  • Do you have a plan that works when you decide to leave?
  • Do you have a plan that works when you choose to call the police?
Educate Your Children:
  • Teach them not to get in the middle of the abuse.
  • Teach them where to run or what to do when the abuse begins
  • Teach who to call (neighbor, friend, relative, or 911) when an incident emerges.
  • Show them a safe escape route.
If you call the police:
  • Record the name of the police officer, badge number, and license plate number, and ask for a business card. 
  • Show your injuries to the police officer. If the wounds get worse over several days, go to the police station to be photographed.
  • Record the case or incident number.
  • If an arrest was made, ask to be notified when the person is released.
  • Ask for a restraining order if necessary.
  • Tell the officer everything that happened, including the words that were said. If a weapon was present in the fight or is in the house, ask the officer to take it for safety.
If you want to report a violent incident:
  • Call the police station for an officer to visit you at home to take a report.
  • You can also go to the police station to make a report.
  • Keep a file of when you made the report and to whom.

FSTH offers three services for our community and survivors of domestic violence, modern-day slavery, and human trafficking.

Through

PREVENTION,
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AND RESOCIALIZATION.

If you are planning on leaving the relationship:
  • Seek help from a professional advocate about your decision.
  • Plan the best time to leave (Situations are different).
  • Have a safe room that closes inside and a phone that you can use.
  • Have a cell phone with you always.
  • Have a list of essential numbers.
  • Memorize some numbers you may need.
  • If you have a restraining order, tell your landlord, principal, and your children’s school teachers about the restraining order.
  • Plan a quick way to pick up your children from school in an emergency.
  • Be informed and have a list of resources that are available to you.
Important Items to Keep In A Security Bag:
  • Money or credit cards to pay for food, gasoline, and other necessities
  • Copies of important keys
  • Medicine
  • Originals or copies of important documents such as:

    * Social Security
    * Birth certificates
    * Passports
    * Immigration papers
    * School and medical files
    * Car Registration
    * Bank information
    * Insurance Cards
    * Other important documents
    * Our contact number
Important Questions To Consider:
  • Where is the safest place to go? How will you get to that place?
  • Who can you tell your decision to?
  • Would a restraining order be an option?
Security If You Live Alone:
  • Change the locks on the doors and windows as soon as possible
  • Plan an escape route
  • Change your routine
  • Never travel without company
  • Have a mobile phone with you always
  • Deliver the photo of the other person to human resources and the security of your work
  • Ask someone to accompany you (Do not go alone)
  • Archive all threatening emails and voicemails.