If you think it is time to leave an abusive relationship, you must have a safety plan that can permit you to end the relationship safer. Consider our number 1 (800) 670-1014, if you need help to make this plan.
We present some questions you can ask for your safety.
- What have you done in the past that kept you safe when abused?
- If you need to escape temporarily, think: Where would you go?
- Do you have a plan that works when you decide to leave?
- Do you have a plan that works when you choose to call the police?
Educate Your Children:
- Teach them not to get in the middle of the abuse.
- Teach them where to run or what to do when the abuse begins
- Teach who to call (neighbor, friend, relative, or 911) when an incident emerges.
- Show them a safe escape route.
If you call the police:
- Record the name of the police officer, badge number, and license plate number, and ask for a business card.
- Show your injuries to the police officer. If the wounds get worse over several days, go to the police station to be photographed.
- Record the case or incident number.
- If an arrest was made, ask to be notified when the person is released.
- Ask for a restraining order if necessary.
- Tell the officer everything that happened, including the words that were said. If a weapon was present in the fight or is in the house, ask the officer to take it for safety.
If you want to report a violent incident:
- Call the police station for an officer to visit you at home to take a report.
- You can also go to the police station to make a report.
- Keep a file of when you made the report and to whom.
FSTH offers three services for our community and survivors of domestic violence, modern-day slavery, and human trafficking.
If you are planning on leaving the relationship:
- Seek help from a professional advocate about your decision.
- Plan the best time to leave (Situations are different).
- Have a safe room that closes inside and a phone that you can use.
- Have a cell phone with you always.
- Have a list of essential numbers.
- Memorize some numbers you may need.
- If you have a restraining order, tell your landlord, principal, and your children’s school teachers about the restraining order.
- Plan a quick way to pick up your children from school in an emergency.
- Be informed and have a list of resources that are available to you.
Important Items to Keep In A Security Bag:
- Money or credit cards to pay for food, gasoline, and other necessities
- Copies of important keys
- Originals or copies of important documents such as:
* Social Security
* Birth certificates
* Immigration papers
* School and medical files
* Car Registration
* Bank information
* Insurance Cards
* Other important documents
* Our contact number
Important Questions To Consider:
- Where is the safest place to go? How will you get to that place?
- Who can you tell your decision to?
- Would a restraining order be an option?
Security If You Live Alone:
- Change the locks on the doors and windows as soon as possible
- Plan an escape route
- Change your routine
- Never travel without company
- Have a mobile phone with you always
- Deliver the photo of the other person to human resources and the security of your work
- Ask someone to accompany you (Do not go alone)
- Archive all threatening emails and voicemails.